One thing that you might notice while in Seoul is that there are far more Western men-Korean women couples than Korean men-Western women couples.* Why is this, since whenever I visit Canada, I see a more balanced ratio?
One big reason is simply numbers. The majority of Western expatriates in Korea are ESL (English as a Second Language) teachers, and the majority of those are male. Is this because Korea fails to attract female teachers, or fails to keep them? My guess is that it’s both.
An interesting phenomenon is the “Charisma Man Effect.” This refers to a comic book written by expatriates who lived in Japan. It describes an ordinary westerner who, upon his arrival in Japan, is transformed into “Charisma Man,” who is very attractive to Japanese women.[1] The Charisma Man Effect holds true in Korea too. Even if a white man is balding, obese, and has a gangrenous skin disease, you can guess that some Korean woman, somewhere, will think that he looks “just like Brad Pitt.”[1.5] This phenomenon affects western women too, and even more so. The Charisma Man Effect only applies to white men, but it applies to foreign women of all skin colors. There is a television show, Mi-nyeo-deul-ee-su-da, known usually by its abbreviation “Misuda,” which could be translated as “Chat with Beauties.” The “beauties” are foreign women who can speak Korean, and not all of them are Caucasian.[2] There are also chat groups on Daum and Naver, Korea’s most popular portal sites, that are dedicated to discussing ways to find foreign girlfriends.[3], [4], [5], [6]
The attraction is not just one-way, either. Anecdotes from talks with expatriate women indicate to me that Korean men are just as attractive as their Western counterparts. In fact, they have the advantage of being naturally lean and also of not becoming too bulky when they lift weights. Also, even though it’s common in Korea to have plastic surgery to widen one’s eyes (particularly among pop singers and actresses), westerners do not find anything at all unattractive about their almond-shaped eyes.[7] For example, actress Megan Fox and model Jessica Gomes both find singer Rain to be very sexy.[8]
Some might point out that most intercultural couples in the movies are Asian woman-Western man couples. For me, it’s simply that the hero gets a girl, be she white, black, Asian, Hobbit, or green-skinned alien, and the heros are usually not Asian. When the hero is Asian, he gets the girl just the same. Examples are Chow Yun-fat, Jet Li, and John Cho in The Replacement Killers, The One, and Harold and Kumar Go To White Castle, respectively.** There is also the implied mutual affection between Chow Yun-fat’s character (the Thai king) and that of Jodie Foster’s character (Anna Leonowens) in Anna and the King. One exception to this is Jackie Chan. In both his Hong Kong and Hollywood movies, his characters are often too Charlie Chaplin-esque to have real girlfriends. Another exception is the “martial arts master” character. He’s usually too busy perfecting his Kung-fu skills to have a girlfriend.
So, why aren’t more (of the relatively few) female western expatriates in Korea dating Korean men? I believe that it’s rooted entirely in culture.
[ To Be Continued ]
* It should be pointed out that the majority of inter-cultural marriages are between Korean men and non-Korean, Asian women. Most of these men are farmers out in rural areas, and their wives come from developing Asian nations like Vietnam and the Philippines.[9]
** Noteworthy is the fact that Harold is Korean-American, and his family and Korean friends try to set him up with a nice Korean girl, but he has his heart set on the sexy latina girl next door, whom he finally kisses at the end.
P.S. If you would like to see the presentations that my students made (with help from me), please go to http://richardlstansfield.wordpress.com/category/student-presentations/.